Lessons from “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck.”

How many have read this personal development book by Mark Manson? I must say this is one of the most well-known books in the recent years but the question many people-especially those who have not read it ask is, does it live up to all the hype?

My answer is in the affirmative, like many other personal development books, it has met all the demands the author Mark Manson had and as such, rather than write a review of the book, I would better share the lessons I gained as I was reading the book.

Reading this book will help you to gain clarity of thought in your processes and set your priorities straight. It is a book that will help you understand and be able to identify what is vital and what is not. You don't have to give a F*ck! Here are some of the lessons I learnt:

Comparisons Are a Waste of Time

Life has a way of showing you many comparison principals but the truth is despite all these infinite number of ways to compare with others on social media and internet, it is a waste of time. In other words, this implies that there are other endless ways to see what you are not measuring up to.

It is an affirmation that we are we are as excellent as somebody else even though it may not be as picture-perfect as many would want you to see. In reality, making comparisons does no one any benefit. It just ruins your mood and makes you feel smaller with little to contribute to the society. We don't belong on a pedestal, don't let comparisons elevate you to where you don't belong.

The Key to Success in Life Is Not to Have the Best.

We have been misled many times on the key to a happy life- society has made it seem to be happy you have to be the best at everything, the best job, the best automobile, the hottest girlfriend or boyfriend, and the most significant and most admirable house.

Hey, don't get me wrong, go get those good things. It is important but be content in the long run. Believing that these superficial material things will result in profound fulfillment or enrichment is a complete farce.

The Need to Be Better Does Not Sometimes Make Us Better.

Seeking better is paradoxical. I know we are all hoping for better, a better job, relationship, more money, a perfect car, an awesome house and a better body. As we seek to get these things, we are led to pay less attention to what we have and more to what we don't have.

What follows is you become less appreciative of what you have and continuously look for more satisfying and better things with the hope that you will be okay. In reality, you forget that what you already have is rather good.

Accept Your Personal Experiences, It Is Very Important.

I agree with Mark Manson; it is important to accept all your personal experiences. In this blog, I have shared many stories and one particular one is full of personal experiences that I have accepted. You can read the whole story here. Ignoring all your experiences is getting less out of your life because life is genuinely what you make of it.

Refusing to accept your own values by comparing your experiences with others is one way of killing what matters to your life and future because we all have unique life experiences. You can't learn from each of them.

Your Happiness Already Exists.

Stop looking for happiness and recognize it already exists within you. The truth is satisfaction is always right in front of all us. If we stopped looking for it, we’d recognize that we already had happiness, and we’d be able to accept it. Caring more about what is genuine and meaningful to you leads to true happiness.

You Don't Have to Fit In.

Stop worrying about fitting in, there is not joy fighting hard to fit in. We are all different individuals with unique traits, physique, and that is the beauty of life. Be original and accept all originality without trying to blend in and see how it all leads you to your ultimate happiness.

Don't obscure your uniqueness and be dissatisfied.

Don't Give a F*ck!

You don't have to give a f*ck. Stop focusing so much on being flawless, or you’ll miss out on the only chance you have to enjoy life.

Lastly, if you haven't read this book, I strongly recommend that you do. Mark Manson's writing makes it easy for you to grasp the topics with real-life examples from his life. It is not just a book but you get the feeling of a man bringing you back to reality and changing your perspective on life.

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